Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Death is an Interruption of Life

"Death is an interruption of life."

You'd think it would be obvious. But the way we tiptoe around death, it apparently isn't.

I just got home from the funeral of my best friend from preschool. BJ was my hero back in the day. For a toe-headed, wimpy pole of a kid, "big and tough" BJ always let me know he had my back (unless of course, I was a threat to his kid sister). Over the years, as things sometimes go, BJ and I fell away from one another: no fight or anything, just a change in geography and different paths in the journey of life.

Thirty-one-year olds are not supposed to die.

But that's kind of why we call it "death."
Death supplants life. It robs us of the way we think things should be.
And we kinda need to acknowledge this so that we can tell it to go to hell where it came from.

I think a lot about death. Don't call a psychologist as I'm rather comfortable with the notion. My craft demands that I wrestle with it. I don't invite it, but I certainly don't fear it. It ticks me off sometimes. It definitely interrupts my life.

But it will not reign. No, it will not reign.


  1. Why does this song say "don't weep for me?" I don't understand that. I understand about heaven, but we should be sad and we should grieve. I don't think anyone or any song regardless of faith should ever say "Don't grieve, cry, or weep." I hear that way too often in the christian faith and it upsets me.

    I heard about your friend and it makes me sad that he lost his life so early. I prayed for you as soon as I heard and prayed for you when I was told that the funeral was today.

  2. I understand where you're coming from, but I think you're taking it wrong.

    It doesn't say, "Don't cry."

    It says, "Don't cry for me."

    I think it's absolutely okay and most often necessary to cry at the time of death. And for Christians, there's some mystery about grief concerning the reasons for which we grieve when we have faith in one who has conquered death.

    I like the song because it is from the viewpoint of the dead. While acknowledging that we have no real ability to view from this angle, the encouragement is not to cry because you feel badly for me (the dead one). You can cry because of the loss, but "don't worry about me."

    I think the point you're making is actually exactly what I was trying to get across in the first place: death is an interruption of life, and we need to acknowledge that at the time of death. But it should not and need not last for eternity.

    It's notable that Jesus cried. But he cried not at the loss of Lazarus (he had no need to cry for Lazarus - he knew the potential of life again for him). Rather, the scripture is clear that Jesus cried when he saw the sorrow of others who loved Lazarus. There is a distinct difference.

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